We, in this modern age of easy access to information and
opinions, have come a long way from what we all were a decade back. Ignorance
and illiteracy had kept us away from what happened on the other side of the
globe. With social media now offering internet as Free Basics, the web has
spread deep amongst us. The question is – are we mature enough to grasp the
gist of the trends that are catching up.
Feminism, in my very frank opinion, is one of such trends.
There are no two ways about the much needed gender equality, absolutely not.
But feminism is not gender equality. In fact, in my opinion, feminism has done
more bad than good in the case of gender equality. Feminism is exactly what is
wrong with Deepika Padukone’s video or Priyanka Chopra saying ‘I need a man
only for the sperm’.
I see the poor side of feminism in every relationship I come
across. Let us take the case of marriages. The ladies want a man that is successful,
rich, older and taller and can take good care of the lady. This is totally
acceptable and if the girl is pretty, that can be her only achievement in life
for such demand. But if a guy says I am looking for a girl who earns more than
me, is fairer and an inch taller than me – he is labelled a loser, gold-digger,
a good for nothing twat.
I see women justifying reservations for them, a bogie in the
locals, seats on the bus, education and what not. Yes, it is a male dominated
society and we guys can’t help because we are born into it. And if you ask for
reservation, you are going to be looked down upon because you get it without
deserving it. We all hail Darwin for his theory of evolution and the theory of
survival of the fittest. We use it to add weight to our arguments at the high
teas, the card clubs and the kitty parties. But we fail to understand what lies
beneath.
Survival of the fittest is the nature’s law for
self-improvement. It means that the weaker species or weaklings in a species
are wiped off the radar so that the world grows into a fitter tomorrow. If we
ask for reservation, the first thing we give out is the lack of ability. And
then if you talk about equality you can imagine what kind of a hypocrite you
turn yourself into. The women today can very much run conglomerates and
probably in a better way. But this is not a game of one-upmanship for the
genders. This game of one-upmanship has been running since forever and the
results are here to be seen.
The want to prove that you are at par itself defies the
claim of being equal. The equality has to be felt within and not spoken or
written about. If you feel inferior, that is not because of physical ability
but more of a mental block. Men feel inferior to other men and even women too
and that may be because of stature, status, personality, strength or ability.
And if a woman feels inferior, there has to be one of these reasons only.
Attributing it to one’s gender makes you more sexist than you can think.
The idea of feminism should ideally be replaced by
individuality. You have to fight for your own sake, take your own decisions and
make your own roads. Blaming your generation older parents or society will not
help you anyway. They have been brought up that way and the change you want
will not happen overnight. The mentalities will change over generations. And
imbibing individuality in the coming generations will turn fare much better
than feminism.
Imagine your kids learning ‘We all are equal’ and ‘Women are
as capable as men’. Your choice here will define our future, the future that
#IAmCapable wants.
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